all the foul words i know

tot i might just as well put in all the foul words i know, since i'm in a foul mood now, haha...


English :
fxxx, wtf, wtfh, fh, not much actually, compared to cantonese, that's why i say canto is a nice lingo, with lotsa foul words, haha.. :P

Cantonese :
t, ns, tns, t(ns)repeat till breathless (my fav), lm, tllm, tkllm, tkllmkh, tlkllmkch, tkllmkcfh, tkllm(klm)repeat till breathless, used it during uni days, h, fh, mh, mkh, mkfh, mch, mkch, mkcfh, cb, ccb, mkccb, mkcb(rarely heard), tkllmkccb, nm, nmkh, nmkch, nmkcfh (note : the word “f” is used as a prefix in most foul words, ditto for “c” and “k” and others), lk, lc, tc, l, ml, jml, mlc, mlchy, mly, (y is refered to any thing or event that pisses us off), ok..mind blank...

Hakka :
pntl, cnfs, tcb,tncb, not much too, maybe becos my hakka is poor, hehe..

Hokkien:
lppl, lj, lpj, kns/gns,not much too, cos parents dont teach, and elders are all cultured ppl :)

Mandarin:
md, tmd, qnmd, n, nn, man, not much too, cos mandarin is a cultured language, i think...

Malay :
p, z, not much either, and most malay frens uses canto swear words too...

Teochew :
pb, only learn this from frequent usage by housemate...

Hainan :
8 , know only few hainan words to begin with..

French :
(forgotten liao)

Japanese :
p , maybe due to japanese are very timid ppl, and dont swear in front of others..

Italian :
C (thanks to sweetie pie ;) )

For now, just want to take cold beer and sleep early...

wesak

just some old thoughts on Wesak :)

Mindfulness in Sasanarakkha, (http://www.sasanarakkha.org/)
Purifying body speech and mind,
the seeds of dhamma have thus been sown,
may all beings share in this merits.

护法苑中修禅定，
清净身语业三罪，
普提种子现已播，
愿众共享此福根。


Bodhi is without name and form,
Dhamma is without limits and bounds.
Where is the path to Nibbana ?
The answer lies in mindfulness.

普提无名亦无色，
佛法无边亦无尽，
君问道从何处寻?
佛答不二法门入。

Happy wesak, and may all beings be happy and healthy :D

2009

it's been awhile, with dec busying with work and bro's wedding,jan with CNY, feb post cny blues, meeting up senior (and bowled over by her charm, personality and infectious lafter ;-) ), and work.
will update some posts later.

a nice day to all :D

fren's wedding

Attended a uni fren's wedding dinner, and happy to meet other frens there :) and surprised to learn a coursemate fren already got 3 kids ! How time flies ! And his eldest doter looked a bit like tomato, and no, i didnt have any pervert tots :)

can still remember the conversation i had with my uni fren, shortly after her breakup :
me : so, when you gonna pakto again?
She : not ever, cos if guys can be trusted, pigs can climb trees (男人信得过，母猪会上树)...

few months later, i saw her holding hands with a guy (her present husband), and called her :

me : hi, i saw a pig climbing tree the other day...
she : hahaha.....

her housemates(which includes my coursemates) were at the same table, and we reminicended on old times, where we used to have all nite drinking, smoking and dancing parties. Once we were so drunk we guys even took of shirts, and i still have some photos, but those are strictly for private viewing though, hehe.. :P

on the way back, heard this song on the radio, “Dream a Little dream of me” :

Stars shining bright above you;
Night breezes seem to whisper …– love you?
Birds singing in the sycamore tree.
Dream a little dream of me.

Say nighty-night and kiss me;
Just hold me tight and tell me you'll miss me.
While I'm alone, blue as can be,
Dream a little dream of me.

Stars fading but I linger on, dear---
Still craving your kiss.
I'm longing to linger till dawn, dear,
Just saying this...

Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you---
Sweet dreams that leave all worries behind you.
But in your dreams, whatever they be,
Dream a little dream of me.

Nite and sweet dreams to all :D

words

“Its only words, and words are all I have, to take Your heart away ...” famous lyrics from bee gees “words”.

Words are a powerful tool to bring across ideas, to communicate. And i love to play around with words. Problem is, words are such that once spoken, you can never take it back. Like the chinese saying “Spilled water cant be collected back ( 覆水难收)”, we have to be careful and THINK b4 we speak.

I was mindless enuff to made rude remarks to a fren, and our conversation went like this :

me : i'm sorry..i didnt mean it...
fren : no, you're not sorry, cos if you were, you will THINK b4 you act....

that seems like sticky a formless knife into my heart, and twist it a few times, and leaving it there... i'm been saying things that hurt and annoy frens (eg tomato, senior, etc..), and apologising and promising not to do it again, and repeat the offence again...and the cycle goes on...

i'm lucky that frens have boundless patience and magnanimously forgive me time and again, and i also realise that its difficult to pacify a fren, and ask for forgiveness, no matter that my intention is not to hurt frens (well, i had the immaturity and stupidity to say the darndest things). I feel that i'm not worth a fren to them, as to me, fren is suppose to protect your feelings, and the last person to hurt your feelings. If the fren hurt your feelings time and again, might as well dont have that fren.

As such, i shall refrain from further totless actions, and pursue my meditation more diligently, inorder to be able to check my tots, b4 they are converted to speech and blameful actions.

I'm really sorry cm, and i mean it.

Wing Chun

Saw a movie trailer of “Ip Man” (叶问), sifu of bruce lee, and got inspired to learn the kung fu, Wing Chun (咏春). Went to a class, and got started. The master is good, and told me a lot about the theory, and i summarized it as follows :

1.Lineage is not important, we must be able to learn the most from the master.
2.How long you learn is not equal to how much effort you have put in.

I was happy with the progress, as i expected to do the squat for 3 months b4 sifu start to teach me anything, as what happened to bruce lee when he first started learning. Anyway, i also realized that the moves are similar to what i've learned in tai chi and praying mantis fist, seems that most kung fu boils down to the few basics, eg sticky hands (黏手) , maintaining own balance and disrupting opponent's balance.

Of course i dont plan to learn till i can defend myself from thugs, just hope that the reflexes training can help to increase my mental alertness, and be more faster in my everyday actions, eg thinking. And most importantly, refine my patience further....much more further, haha..

we'll see how long this lasts, hehe...

deaf culture

Sign language teacher smsed me for a special test today. Seems that i'm short of 4 more marks to pass level 1. went for the test, and only managed to get 3 marks, bringing the total to 69.95...well...que sera, sera. Had a short talk with her on deaf culture, and the following are excerpts (in sign, but translated) :
me : i realised something about the deaf people ...
she : what is it?
Me : you all are wary of the hearing (people), and do not trust them. It takes a lot of time and patience to gain the trust of you all.
She : ya.
Me : i believe it is the constant fear of not being able to hear what we are saying whenever we are talking, and that breeds unnecessary fear and mistrust.
She : (nods) but there are exceptions...what is (another teacher) were to tell you that she likes you?
Me : (shaking head) then i will have to tell her that it is very difficult. As i believe communications is important in any relation, and given my poor sign skills, i wont be able to understand her most of the time, and vice versa. This will create weariness.
She : ya, and your parents will not be able to accept it too.
Me : well...ya, cos they also don't know sign language, and its going to be difficult for them to communicate with each other, and also other friends and relatives.
She : agree.
Me : so, you gotta have more trust in your bf. And remember, patience (fancy that coming from me ! A table banging swearing two-tongue good for nothing !) is also important.
She : (nodding) ya.
Me : but now times have changed, with the internet and handphone, the hearing(people) and deaf can still be friends can communicate like normal. Even most of my friends also i rarely call or meet them, only contact thru sms, email or chat.
She : ya, but for a relation, still need face to face interaction.
Me : ya, true also.
She : anyway, hope you will continue to learn and improve your sign language, and make more friends with the deaf, and also introduce more friends to them.
Me : ya, i will :-)

as such, the deaf are also normal, just that they need more time to build their trust in others, as they've been living in their silent world since birth, all alone, with few friends.
Hope this will prompt you to learn about sign language ;-)

Brand (new) Story

Had and enlightening talk on “Brand Awareness” today, and cant help thinking of goddess of patience when the speaker mentioned that passion and “patience” are required in order to succeed in any endeavour. Haha.

This also coincides with “pointers” qy gave me to chase after cm, so, the following is the synopsis of the talk :

Brand dimensions can be divided into 2 :
1.Product Dimension – such as benefits(what's the benefit of being someone's bf/gf), performance (the job performance of that particular promising candidate), packaging (their personal grooming), ingredients(their skills and talents). Man, this can really be related to searching for a soul mate ! :P
2.Brand equity dimension – such as heritage(family background), personality(eg fun).

A strong brand always delivers its promise, or more than it promised. Now, doesn't that sound familiar?

The reasons for branding includes :
1.more competitive environment – with people competing for limited span of attention(purple gal will attest to this ;-) ), escalating costs of communications (my personal experience with tomato), accelerated change (of hearts (is it under a field of study, yt? :P) ).
2.Strong brands are preferred and trusted.

We build a strong brand thru AIDA – (creating)Awareness, (rousing)Interest, (instilling)Desire, (prompting)Action.

A brand message is effectively delivered when the same story is presented in different ways, eg using some dose of humor, exaggeration and a spoonful of good sense.

That's all for today. Hope it is beneficial for all. :)

Education

Education cannot be overstressed. Confucius once said “(teaching’s) Responsibility is heavy, and the path long. With moral as one’s own responsibility, isn’t it heavy? Till death does one stop, isn’t the path long? “

I think its time the country tighten its grip on quality of graduates, and only allows those who really made the mark to pass, and not simply pass them just to fulfill some so called “quotas”.

By stressing the importance of skill, and communications(in english especially), we can move towards a better educated population, and hence, more competitiveness.
For example, the government may post an early warning that in 5 years time, they will only employ those capable of communicating in English, regardless of race or religion. Of course, this must be done in a gradual manner, with much planning in advance, and not just any other “plans” that are sprouted out from the mouth at the spur of the moment.

Skills training will also be provided. For example, those who studied for medicine, and still cannot pass within 5 or 6 years, will have to retrain for other skills, eg pharmacy or nursing. As some courses may be too tough for a person to follow through.

Such plans will take about 20 to 25 years to execute, with periodical review and changes every 5 years. But the changes should not be too drastic, else the whole plan will be in ruins again.

Having said that, I’m not the PM or education minister, but just doing my part as a citizen to voice out my exasperation. Really wonder what the top guys are doing…

Destress method

Whenever I feel tired or stressed, I will use the following method to relax.

First, find a quiet place and sit down comfortably with back straight. Then close the eyes and relax whole body slowly.

Start by relaxing the scalp, moving down to the forehead, eye muscle nose, mouth, face, ears and neck. Next, relax the shoulders, forearms, wrists, palm and fingers. Feel your muscles relaxing as you focus your attention to them.

Move next to the chest, stomach, groin, then to the upper back, lower back and buttocks, and on to the thigh, knee and calve muscles. Lastly is the ankle feet and toes.

Sweep thru the body from head to toe, and see if any of your muscle is still tense. Focus your attention there, and slowly relax it. Feel it let go, just relax.

After taking care of the physical body, move on to the mind. We have to make it soft and relax too.

Start by wishing our own self to be happy and care free. Free from all problems(work, money, relations, etc..). imagine we are happy and healthy. See ourselves smiling, happy and healthy.

Next, radiate this wish to our parents, teachers, relatives, friends, colleagues, and everyone around. See them happy and smiling in front of us(mentally).

After making our body and mind relaxed, we are ready to recharge and relax further.

Bring our attention to our breathing. Note the in’s and out’s of our breath. Notice when we are breathing long or short. If we get distracted(by other thoughts, eg bored), just gently bring our attention back to our breathing.

One method I find useful is to count the breathing as it goes in and out. I will count from 1 to 10, then back from 10 to 1. whenever I get distracted and lost count, I will start from 1 again.

After sometime, fully relaxed and recharged, I will slowly open my eyes, noting how my brain send signals to the eyelids to open, and how the eyelids slowly pulling up. Then slowly unfold my legs, lie down, and sleep…

I notice I will have less dreams(or less tiring ones, where I am working, or got chased around by monsters) if I do it before bed…

Guess I have to be more hardworking and destress before sleeping. Winks.

Idol

Since small, I was enthralled by detectives such as Holmes, Poirot and Dupin. They are my idols. Love the way they solve complex cases using simple logical deduction. It has influenced my way of thinking. Whenever I face any problem (non-mathematical) with limited information, I will try to link the available sources and get new info from the existing sources. It has worked well for me, and sometimes I cannot stand people who are too lazy to use their brain to dig a little further, and ask for solutions. Solutions don’t fall unto our lap, we have to work for em.

竹林清谈

小时候，公公家前有堆竹子。咱爷俩闲时就在那乘凉。偶尔微风吹来，倒也清爽。
希望可在此，和诸位无忧无虑，无拘无束，在乡间林中，畅谈欢乐。

Story of Rathapala

Read this not long ago.

It happened long ago, in India.

. A king heard about a wise man named Rathapala, and went to ask him for some advice, to which Rathapala asked the king the following :

R : O king, how were you in your youth?

King : O, I was the strongest man then, able to carry a bull elephant about !

R : how are you now, O king?

K : Now I can barely stand, and sometimes I put my left foot forward when I intend to put my right.

R : Are you well now, o king?

K : I suffer from the wind ailment, and my attendants have to stand far away from me whn I’m ill, thinking “the king is ill, the king is going to die soon!”.

R : Is anyone able to share your suffering?

K : There is no one to share my pain in my body.

R : Are you endowed with riches?

K : My treasury is filled with the most beautiful gems, and people will spend a year looking at them and not get bored !

R : Are you able to take them along when you passed away from this world?

K : I won’t be able to take away a single gem…

R : If I were to tell you that there is a country to the west, full of riches, and slaves, will you try to conquer it?

K : I will conquer any country in the west, east, north or south as long as there is riches to be gained !

After which Rathapala sum up the following :

R : O king, there are this 4 things in life you should know :

1. All things are impermanent, subject to change. Youth and beauty and all that is around.
2. All things are helpless, swept in the current of change and decay, with no chance of turning against the tide, nothing to help them.
3. All things doesn’t belong to us. All the riches, slaves and land, none can be carried away when life passes from this world.
4. Desire is limitless. There can never be enough. The hole of greed is never filled up.

Therefore, O king, lead a life of virtue, doing good, with a mind with compassion, stifling all evil thoughts, and this will lead to your happiness for a long time to come.

I am so absorbed in the story that I always recite the 4 points every morning and before every meal, just to remind myself :)

Hope you all enjoy it. Cheers !

Title

I chose this title cos it reminds me of the bamboo clump in front of my grandpa’s house. When I was small, grandpa and I use to sit under the bamboo grove, and watch life pass in front of us. Occasionally, some neighbours would walk up and chat with him, and I will just listen, though I dun understand what they’re talking about. Sometimes there’s a cool breeze, and the rustling of the leaves is the perfect lullaby in the world….

When he is in the mood, grandpa will put me on his old bike, and cycle me to the sundry shop for sweets. Whenever I ask him for coins, he’ll give me a handful, cos he said he was poor as a kid last time, and he wanted me to lead a better life than him.

I would like to share some of my ramblings in this space here, under the bamboo grove, which reminds me of childhood days, where life is always in the present, with no worries for the future, nor regrets of the past. Winks.